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Men Don’t Cry-Or Do They?
Written by Aakifa Shafeer
Mental health is widely recognized today as an important issue and is discussed extensively around the world. However, men’s mental health, although receiving more attention in recent years, is still not explored, discussed, or acknowledged enough to create meaningful change and action. Societal expectations often pressure men to be “masculine” and “manly,” which in reality is frequently interpreted as suppressing emotions or appearing emotionally numb. Men are often expected not to be vulnerable, to keep their guard up, and to have “everything figured out.” In truth, this expectation can be deeply harmful. Because of these pressures, many men are less likely to acknowledge when they need help or seek support, leaving them to struggle silently and endure significant mental distress.
The depiction of men in television shows and films has also played a significant role in shaping how men are expected to behave. For many years, male characters were often portrayed as constantly having their guard up, reinforcing the idea that men must always appear strong and emotionally controlled. Vulnerability was rarely shown as a strength, which made emotional openness seem like a weakness. However, this narrative is slowly beginning to change. As more people speak openly about mental health and the importance of emotional well-being, media portrayals are gradually evolving to show men seeking support, expressing their feelings, and embracing vulnerability as a natural and healthy part of being human.
Why do men avoid seeking help?
- The action-oriented man
Conventionally, the role of a man has primarily focused on providing for the family. Even today, men tend to be more action-oriented, which can make it difficult for them to express emotional distress through words. As a result, they are less likely to openly say when they feel depressed or anxious. Instead, emotional struggles may manifest through behaviors such as risk-taking, excessive drinking, or aggression when facing challenges.
- Therapy and Men
Women are generally more inclined to seek therapy than men, as therapy is often perceived as a more “feminine” approach to dealing with emotions. As a result, many men struggle to openly discuss their feelings, as vulnerability can feel uncomfortable or unfamiliar. Instead, men often prefer group therapy or activity-based support, where there is a sense of shared experience and togetherness rather than direct emotional focus. (Blumenthal.S, 2026)
- Cultural Pressures and Masculinity Norms
According to cultural norms, men are discouraged from being vulnerable and encouraged to rein themselves in and have it all figured out.
- Fear of judgements
Men may hesitate to discuss their mental health because it’s not commonly talked about, and they fear being seen as weak or vulnerable. (SamaraCare, 2025).
Signs that men may be struggling
- Frequent anger, irritability, or aggressive behavior
- Significant changes in mood, energy, or appetite
- Trouble sleeping or sleeping excessively
- Difficulty focusing, feeling restless, or constantly on edge
- Heightened worry or stress
- Increased use or misuse of alcohol, drugs, or both (National Institute of Mental Health, 2024).
- Using work, sports, or other activities to avoid emotions
- Physical symptoms such as headaches, digestive problems, or chronic pain
- Engaging in risky actions, like reckless driving(Anxiety and Depression Association of America,2026)
Small steps in seeking help
Use non-judgmental language and genuine concern to start conversations. Being non-judgmental and showing genuine care can help start meaningful conversations, even with a simple question like, “How are you doing? “Respect men’s autonomy while offering support. Supporting men effectively means giving advice or help without taking control, allowing them to make their own choices and feel empowered. Anonymous online resources can provide a safe space allowing them to share their experiences and seek support without judgment. (AnxiousMinds,n.d)
Men’s mental health deserves attention and care. Seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness, and even small steps like talking to someone or accessing support can make a real difference. By encouraging openness and understanding and creating awareness, we can help men feel safe to express their emotions and take control of their well-being.
References
Anxiety and Depression Association of America. (2026, January 23). Men’s mental health. https://adaa.org/find-help/by-demographics/mens-mental-health/
Anxious Minds. (n.d.). Why men struggle to ask for help. https://www.anxiousminds.co.uk/why-men-struggle-to-ask-for-help/
Blumenthal, S. (2026, January 30). They’re taught that showing feelings is shameful: Eight reasons men don’t go to therapy—and why they should. The Guardian. https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2026/jan/30/why-men-resist-therapy-mental-health-problems
National Institute of Mental Health. (2024, May). Men and mental health. U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, National Institutes of Health. https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/men-and-mental-health/
SamaraCare. (2025, April 1). Why do men hesitate to seek mental health counseling? SamaraCare Counseling. https://samaracarecounseling.org/blog/anxiety-and-stress/why-do-men-hesitate-to-seek-mental-health-counseling/
